8 Signs The Guy You’re Messing With Is NOT a Grown A** Man

 Hey ladies! I stumbled upon this interesting post on Madame Noire and I just had to share it with you guys. How many times do you say or hear your girls say "I Love a grown a** man!". Who doesn't like them? Who wouldn't want a grown a** man by their side? Let's get some things straight before I list the reasons why your boo just might not so "grown" after all. First, I don' think age equates to being grown. I know some immature men over the age of 30. Second, there really isn't a way to define what "grown" is but there sure is a way to know if he is lacking in his maturity level! Check out my top signs below...

Does he spend the little money he has on junk?

This is one major thing that seriously grinds my gears. What is the serious obsession some men have with copping the latest sneakers..every...single..time? Okay, let's get something straight here.. I love a man who can occasionally throw on a pair of fresh Jordan's with his outfit but if you can't cover all your bills and if you also don't own a decent pair of dress shoes, red flag. If your man is popping all the bottles in the club or getting all the latest video games but can't buy groceries or pay that phone bill, red flag. After a certain age, we should all be making more strides to save and only splurge every once and a while.

He Doesn’t Have Any Real Goals for the Future

Can your man tell you where he sees himself in the next 2-5 years? Does he have a solid plan for his future?  Eh, he wants to be a rapper you say.. NO! Stop it. Women don't like unstable men who don’t seem to be committed to one thing or don’t seem to know where they’re headed, but they want you to go too–maybe. If you ask him the question again and he says he’s still not sure or hasn’t really thought about it, just be sure to take yourself out of those “to come” future plans. 

He Loves to Blame Other People for Everything

Oh he couldn't get that new job because his manager hates him? Dang, his baby mother "trapped" him? Boo hoo sad story..next! Part of being an adult is knowing when to take responsibility for the part you play in things. If everyone else seems to be the problem–the dude he fought at the club, his co-worker, his ex, his mother–then it might just be that he’s in denial of the fact that he could be the real problem. You made your bed boo, lay in it!

He’s Not As Involved With His Kids As He Should Be

If your man has kids and he's not taking care of them like he should be and he's okay with that, red flag. What happens if you guys have children together? Serious problem if he just lets things be the way they are and not try to fix them. Let's just end this ugly cycle. Using angry exes as excuses as to why he doesn’t go around to see his son or claiming you can’t afford to put out that child support because you just don’t have it (but there go those Xbox games!) is played out. How is he gonna be there for you and he can't even take care of his own kids? 

He Constantly Talks About or Does Inappropriate Mess in Public

Major, major, major red flag. Why do you have to discuss sexual encounters in public, the constant yelling and cursing, why? Burping or passing gas without saying excuse me is so immature. This one is pretty self explanatory and you can see where Madame Noire is going with this sign. Your man should respect you and himself at all times. He is a reflection of you when you're not around. Nothing wrong with him grabbing your booty, but he better not do that mess in public!

Read the rest of the signs HERE. I credit this entire post to Madame Noire!

Which gets me to asking you ladies the question of the day...Would you ever tell your girl if her man wasn't good enough for her? Like you just know she deserves better, she doesn't see it right now because she's in the clouds. Would you warn her?  Hmmm...

"10 Ways to Tell He's Into You"

Hey guys! How has everyone been? Can you believe that January is almost coming to an end? Wow..time is just flying by! I hope you all are being productive and taking advantage of the time though. lol.

Anywho.. so I just had to post this entry I found on BOSSIP entitled "10 Ways to Tell He's Into You". This entry is for all you daters out there. Dating can be good...and on those "unsure" days it can be confusing.

Even though these 10 signs surely do not cover all the indications of a swooning man, they should give you a good idea of what to look for. Too often women overanalyze irrelevant details and overlook the tell-tale signs when it comes to gauging just how into you he is. A lot of times women have a general thought or idea of how a man is supposed to act when he’s diggin’ her i.e. flowers, cards, and candy, which can come with time but in the beginning, the signs are subtle yet obvious! Remember, body language speaks louder than words and it would be good pay attention to his gestures!

Calls and Texts - if a man is truly digging a woman he will call, a lot of times for no reason. If he calls or shoots you a text saying, “hey, have good day” you’re on his mind! If he returns your calls in a prompt manner, he wants you to know that he’s not dodging you and making an effort to take the time to let you know that.
He Tries New Things for You - you obviously had a life before you started dating this guy so you know that Yoga class you take three nights a week? If you say “hey, you wanna come with me one night?” and he comes along, he’s taking one for the team! Why? Because he wants to spend time with you, get to know you and the things you take interest in.
He Introduces You to His Friends - if a guy is into you, chances are he’s told his friends about you. Men normally don’t go introducing their friends to the “jump-off” so if you meet his boys from childhood, the ones he play sports with on the weekends and the ones he works with, he’s into you. You’ll know for sure if the boys know things about like what you do for a living and for leisure. All this means is he’s been bragging about his boo!
He Gets to Know Your Friends - this is a two way street, right? So if he takes the time to hang out with you and your girls, he’s making his presence in your life known. He’ll also do this to get to learn your role in their lives and how you behave around them. Are you the wild-child party animal, the witty but funny voice if reason or the conservative who sits back and observes? If he’s really into you, he’ll make a point to get in good with the bestie so he knows who to call in case you get missing!
He Values Your Opinion - no matter how big or small the scenario, if he asks your opinion and takes the advice you give, then it’s safe to say he trusts you. If it’s as simple as, “does the blue or black shirt look better with this suit” or “do you think I should take my mother here or there for her birthday?” All this means is he trusts your judgment and values your opinion.
Random Caresses - if a man is into you, he’ll want to be close. If he’s diggin’ you, he wants to be close enough to you to smell you and sneak a touch or two. Some men are the aggressive type and will caress the small of your back, tug at your hips, or give you a solid squeeze.
Open Posture – If the two of you are sitting across from each other and he’s hunched over table, he may struggle with revealing his feelings and thoughts physically and verbally. But if a guy sitting across from you is leaning towards you with his shoulders raised with a slight head tilt, his body language is indicating that he’s interested in you and what you have to say.
Gazing - as the old saying goes “eyes are the gateway to the soul,” and this is so true! It’s easy to tell a man is totally detached if you’re talking about something you feel passionate about and he’s distracted, fidgeting and looking everywhere but in your eyes. He’s not interested, period. But if you’re speaking and he’s giving you eye contact, then he’s connected. Think about it: it’s highly unlikely a man will readily admit that you have him open, but if he’s staring in your eyes while you speak and allows you to look back, he’s letting you in.
Nervous Sprucing - if a guy is totally into himself, then you’ll know the difference between narcissistic grooming and nervous sprucing. If the gentleman you’re feeling is constantly brushing miniscule lent off his shoulder, adjusting his shirt and smoothing his freshly cut hair, he wants to look good for you! He’s trying his hardest to look his best for you, so don’t be surprised if he asks you if he has anything in his teeth! These gestures are simply nervous quircks.
Facial Expressions - you can always tell how a man feels by his expression when he first sees you. For example, if he’s picking you up for a date, pay attention to the look on his face. If he raises his eyebrows and has an expression that mirrors surprise, he’s happy to see you and excited to spend time with you. Men don’t like to be rejected, so if he looks relieved, he’s glad you showed up and thrilled about the time he’ll spend with you. By the end of the night, if he looks like he’s anxious or can’t keep his eyes off you, chances are he’s having troubles keeping his hands off you also. Don’t be too proud to reach out to him for a solid hug!


The best advice I have for you guys is to Go With the Flow..dont trip. If a person likes you...trust me..you will know!

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